How to Build Self Trust
When I was 24 I got a snake tattooed on my wrist. (photo below)
I got it as a reminder to be discerning. Truthfully, at that time I WAS NAIVE. I had no idea how to be discerning. At a time when most of my friends were launching families and careers, I was simply attempting to rebuild my internal foundation.
I briefly worked at a wealth management firm and couldn’t handle the stress. I had my first panic attack. During this period, I regularly woke up in a cold sweat. My nervous system was underdeveloped & fried.
I attempted to be straight, but each relationship ended in a cut & run. My heart was terrified of the truth.
The conventional path wasn’t working for me. Like, at all. I was searching for guideposts in all the wrong places.
I knew what I didn’t want. But what DID I WANT?! My intuition was mostly offline. I couldn’t even hear it’s sweet whisper most of the time. My heart, brain and gut were so out of sync that I felt confused, scattered and broken.
Lies I believed:
I have to make myself small to know God.
I’m not trustworthy.
Obedience is safer than my own intuition.
I had been trained up in a cult-like world view that prioritized obedience to other humans over all else. Unplugging from this worldview felt like a radical act. And I fumbled through those first few years.
A coaching client shared a similar experience with me this week - “I don’t know what I want, but I know exactly what I don’t want.”
Aahhh, YES. It can be a terrifying realization, but it’s also incredibly fertile ground.
How do we learn to trust ourselves after decades of outsourcing the answers?!
Conventional = what is generally accepted or done
Conventional farming is destroying our top soil, our bodies and our planet. (watch Kiss the Ground Documentary)
Conventional guilt keeps us small.
Conventional workplaces run us into the ground with disease and stress.
What we are craving is UN-conventional. It’s time to rewild. It’s time to return to our own true nature by pausing long enough to accept what’s right in front of us. It’s time to accept what’s NOT working so we can bravely chart a new path forward.
How do you chart a new path forward? By building self trust. And here’s the equation:
Self Trust = aligned head + heart + gut
The version of you who is trusting of yourself is calm, confident and grounded. This version of you knows how to return to this place whenever you get rocked by the world. This version of US is empowered, embodied and creative in how we rebuild community.
We all want a version of the same things: PRESENCE, CONFIDENCE, CALM/PEACE, CONNECTION, ABUNDANCE
Every tool I teach supports one or more of these components. Are you ready to discover what you DO WANT?? I promise you, the world needs that version of you right now.
snake tattoo on wrist and root bound plant
